This post about grief was originally written August 19, 2016.
Still has great meaning today.
This is an intense topic, grief. In my Mediumship I deal with grief on a daily basis. As a human we deal with it at one level or another. Personally I am surrounded by people that are in deep grief right now. There are moments that my own grief from the loss of loved ones hits me. So I am not immune to it.
Being a Medium doesn’t exempt me from grief. It does however, give me a point of understanding. Since my realization of my gifts I look at death differently, to me it is like graduation. As a Spiritualist I believe there is communication with the other side of the veil. I also believe we all have lessons to learn and once we learn them we are no longer needed here. We have not control over this process. So we must make the most of each and every day.
Don’t get me wrong, there are days that I wish people were still here. That my heart doesn’t ache because they are not here. When loved ones come to me it is because I can help someone that we both love.
Helping Others With Grief
I am watching several people deal with their grief on Facebook right now. I have had to mute them from my feed. Just with a simple one sentence post by them I can dissolve into a pool of tears. The joys of being empathic. On the flip side when someone gets a promotion, married, engaged or has a baby or gets a new puppy — I get those emotions too!
When loved ones pop in to me, it usually means that I am the one and the only person that can help in a situation. Very rarely do I get the I love you and just want to let you know how proud we are of you kind of message. Mainly because I have gained confidence in my abilities and because I feel their love all the time now. I can’t pass Black Eyed Susans without feeling my grandfather winking at me. See sunflowers knowing that my friends say hello from the other side. I miss placed my Grandmother’s ring the other day. I knew it wasn’t far. It was her way of saying clean up your mess in your room. Once done; it was in plain sight.
So grief. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE handles it differently. For me someone grieving means I go to work. It is hard to just turn it off and ignore deep grief. Most of my information comes from Clairsentience, so I feel that grief. I feel that love and I feel it from both sides. Sometimes the grief is fresh and is days or weeks old, other times it is years in the making.
They say this gift is a both a blessing and a curse. I focus on the blessings. Bless, I can connect and I can bring closure. I ease people’s pain in a way that nobody else can. Over time I have learned to create balance. Good Mediums know how to do that.
Mediumship Learning Never Ends
There is no great achievement. It is always changing and evolving. As you get better the messages change. Sometimes you are the only person that can deal with a difficult situation in a loving and compassionate way. For a time, you will find these types of messages come your way. Other times, you find that the messages are simple and just basically loving. I have learned that the Universe knows when and how to balance what you are getting. I have also learned to say “enough, I can’t handle this” and they will back off the intense messages for a while.
If you are grieving, here is my message for you… Don’t worry if you are doing it right or wrong. Do be kind to yourself and surround yourself with those that offer support. Resist the urge to judge others that are not offering support, they may be going through their own grief and being near you intensifies their own. Don’t be afraid to seek out help if you need it. This isn’t a time to be stoic.
Understand I may be very aware of the person you are grieving for and may or may not share this information. Each person is different and so is our relationships. I may just plant the seed for someone down the road to give you the closure you seek. Some times I give a message and I don’t even know I am doing it. If I am distant, I am taking care of myself or helping someone else through a difficult time. I may not be the one that can help you. Fortunately this world is full of loving and wonderful people.
Much love and light….