you are not alone

You Are Not Alone

Though it may feel like like it, you are not alone in struggling to navigate the dynamics of family relationships.  Family relationships are not always easy. There are divorces, stepparents, siblings and sibling rivalries. Step-brothers and sisters, half-brothers and sisters, in-laws. Aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents. Deaths. Births. All of these and all of the possible combinations.

Family dynamics are complex, and then you throw in the personalities of all the human beings involved and what do you have? A mess, pretty much.

The Struggle is Real

Some of us manage to wade through the mess pretty well. We may have lucked out in the original birth lottery and managed to come out with parents that were pretty stable, easy going and managed to somehow get us on the right track to adulthood relatively unscathed. And hopefully, we will manage to get our own kids off to a pretty similar start in their lives as well.

Unfortunately, not all of us are quite so lucky. Somehow we got dumped in the other end of the pool, and have spent a lot of years wading through some seriously foul muck. Narcissistic mothers that left us with massively bruised egos and self-esteem so low we can walk under a snake’s belly while wearing a top hat or dad’s with substance issues, that were only present in our lives long enough to make us glad when they were not.

Yet, somehow, we managed to survive, and actually succeed in creating good lives for ourselves. We grew up to be good, strong adults, carving out lives for ourselves that we can be proud of. And we did this IN SPITE of our families, not because of them.

Holiday Complications

And then the holidays roll around, and we feel the guilt start to sink in again, as we contemplate not going home. Or worse yet, we feel the insecurities rear their ugly fangs as we do head home, knowing what we will face when we get there.

All those years of therapy go out the window, and in minutes, your ego is jello and your self-confidence on a scale of 1 to 10 is about a -12. Mom has you apologizing for being a ‘strong presence’ or Dad is berating you for the new car.

Stop. Take a deep breath and remember that you are NOT alone. There are a lot of us out here that have been through this, and you will get through this. You are strong. Remember that You are an entrepreneur with special skills and talents that got you where you are today.

You are not that child anymore. Remember that you are not simply the sum total of your parents!  You are the person that YOU want to be, living the life that YOU want to live. And you belong to the most amazing community on this planet – the world of internet marketers and entrepreneurs.

You are not alone.

Rev. Colleen Irwin
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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