the myth of perfection

So many of us in our spiritual growth think that perfection is the goal.  We often compare ourselves to others and beat ourselves up for not being like them.   When in reality we are not them, and our spiritual growth will be different.   It is about embracing our imperfection and being vulnerable is part of this.

Perfection vs. Imperfection

It is important to note that the perfectionist characteristics and rigid thinking are known to manifest many mental health issues. Things like depression, anxiety disorders, and low self-esteem which will hinder your growth.   Perfectionism is an impossible goal, which leads to feelings of failure as it rejects reality.    Perfectionism is related to issues with productivity, avoidance and procrastination.  Think about it, most perfectionists are “all or nothing” thinkers.   Their spiritual growth can be seriously hindered with that type of thinking.

Those that approach their spiritual growth without the perfection attitude tend to grow more quickly and with less set backs than perfectionists.  Setting unrealistic goals with perfect standards can result in self-judgment and ultimately a failure to try new things in the future. Perfectionists are rarely happy, and whatever joy they do experience usually doesn’t last long.

In reality, trying to be perfect is not positive at all. It causes you to focus on your flaws, imperfections, problems, and mistakes rather than on all the good bits. There might be a zillion positive bits and yet your focus is on the one or two less than perfect parts.

Vulnerability as Strength

Being vulnerable is a potent catalyst for self-discovery and spiritual growth. By opening ourselves up to vulnerability, we gain profound insights into our inner selves, fostering a deeper understanding of who we are and where we can evolve. This heightened self-awareness becomes a powerful tool on our spiritual journey, guiding us towards personal transformation and enlightenment.

Moreover, embracing vulnerability strengthens our connections with others. By sharing our authentic selves;the raw emotions, experiences, and limitations, we forge genuine bonds built on trust and empathy. Vulnerability paves the way for authentic relationships grounded in mutual understanding and acceptance.

Though embracing vulnerability can be daunting, it’s essential to recognize its inherent strength. When we courageously reveal our vulnerabilities, we invite others to see us as we truly are, fostering deeper connections and meaningful interactions. By acknowledging our imperfections and embracing our humanity, we defy societal pressures to conform and instead embrace our authenticity.

In essence, vulnerability is not a weakness but a profound act of courage and self-acceptance. It’s about acknowledging our flaws and imperfections with grace, recognizing that they are integral parts of our journey towards growth and fulfillment. By embracing vulnerability, we proclaim to the world, “I am imperfect, and that’s perfectly okay.”

Think about a time in your own Spiritual growth that being vulnerable and less than perfect helped you grow in a positive way.  I can bet that it was far from perfect and in that you learned a lot.   That is the goal of spiritual growth, to learn as you go.  To remember that perfection is a terrible goal as it sets us up for disappointment.

Rev. Colleen Irwin
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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