boundaries and balance

Finding boundaries and balance with Mediumship can be tricky.  When we first start we are all excited about our connections with the Spirit world.   Welcome to the dynamic world of mediumship, where connections between the physical and spiritual realms are forged. Within this space, establishing boundaries isn’t just crucial; it’s a necessity. Just as we respect personal boundaries in our everyday lives, it’s equally vital to extend this regard to our spiritual practice. You don’t just anyone to come into the bathroom while you are in there without knocking and asking for permission first.  The same is with Spirit.

Join me as we delve into the essential art of nurturing boundaries and balance in mediumship, safeguarding both our energy and our connections with Spirit.  Here’s how:

Know Your Limits:

Understand your energy thresholds and recognize when you’re reaching them. Listen to your intuition.  We do not have to be on all the time, we have the right to choose to disconnect for our own mental health.  If you need 8 hours of sleep a night, then Spirit needs to respect that. Don’t want to work with Spirit while you are work, unless you tell them they will reach out.

Set Clear Intentions:

Before each session, take a moment to set clear intentions for the energy you’re willing to receive and transmit. This simple act can create a powerful shield of protection.   I am always telling people that if they set the intention for “highest and best” that not only applies to the sitter, but  yourself.   If there are messages you are uncomfortable giving, don’t.   Trust that your guides will respect that.   The only way they know what is not in your highest and best interest is if you tell them.

Practice Grounding Techniques:

Grounding is essential for maintaining stability working with Spirit. Whether it’s through meditation, visualization, or connecting with nature, find what works best for you.  Are you feeling off during a reading?  Try eating a piece of candy.  I find peppermint or wintergreen lifesavers very helpful.  It pulls me back to a physical action and grounds me.   Other mediums use the simple act of drinking water to ground them.  Find what works for you.

Learn to Say No:

It’s okay to decline readings or requests that don’t align with your energy or values. Saying no isn’t a rejection; it’s an act of self-love and preservation.  Feeling guilty about saying no?  Just tell Spirit to find another way.  Guess what?  There is always another way.  Trust that and you will feel more at ease saying no to Spirit.

Honor Your Physical Needs:

Remember to nurture your physical body. Stay hydrated, nourished, and well-rested. Your body is your vessel, it deserves your care.  Proper sleep, nutrition and hydration are important.  But so is your mental health.  If you neglect that, you will see it affect you physically.   Regular exercise, your relationships and a variety of interests are just as important.   Remember you are not just here to use your mediumship skills.   It is just a part of who you are.

Seek Support:

Surround yourself with a supportive community of like-minded individuals who understand the nuances of mediumship. Share experiences, insights, and advice.  It’s incredibly empowering.   Take part in a Mediumship Development Circle either as a facilitator or participant.   The more you learn, the better you become.

Regularly Evaluate and Adjust:

As you grow and evolve on your spiritual path, your boundaries may shift. Regularly check in with yourself and adjust accordingly. Flexibility is key.  Don’t be afraid of stepping away from it every once in awhile.   Each time I step away, I come back to it fresh and with perspective that helps me with my mediumship.   You don’t have to explain why you are taking a break.

By embracing these practices, you’re not only safeguarding your own well-being but also enhancing the quality of your mediumship.  Boundaries and balance can be achieved, you just have to be willing to set out the rules and stick with them.  Remember, balance is not a destination, it’s a continuous journey. Trust yourself, honor your boundaries, and shine brightly in your divine calling.

Rev. Colleen Irwin
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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