Often I am asked how you can get a better reading from Medium. It is easier for the medium if you are showing up prepared. So here is some advice to help make it easier when we meet or if you meet with another Medium.
Come relaxed and not anxious. Keep an open mind to what messages I have for you. Don’t schedule a reading for a day that is busy or overwhelming. Make sure you have eaten and are not hungry. But don’t over indulge either feeling. Please don’t drink or come to the reading hung over. It will make it harder to connect with Spirit!
What about Confirmation?
When I ask you for confirmation — Yes, no, or maybe is really the only thing that you should be saying to me unless I ask for clarification
. A lot of times you will find me closing my eyes when I ask a question, I am not being rude, I don’t want to ready your reaction, I want to hear your answer.
Don’t tell me details, let me tell you. Then again help me out if I give a bunch of detail and things are not making sense. For example if I were to say I have a gentleman here want to say fathers side of the family who played the violin who would have been of your grandfathers generation. Give me confirmation oh that was my great Uncle Teddy. Or correct me if I have some detail wrong — not my Dads side but my uncle teddy from my moms side it makes perfect sense.
Here is where it gets interesting — I could only have the violin that makes sense.
My best friends Dad played the violin before he passed
Or I am always hearing a violin as I fall asleep
My favorite Christmas ornament on the tree is this violin from my grandparent’s tree
I played the Violin as a child, or you currently do or your child does
Then again, the violin could be an incorrect detail completely… or something that will impact you in the future
Your comments can help me clarify what it is that I am seeing hearing or feeling. I can be getting information from multiple sources in multiple ways and I have to interpret the information and give it to you. You may say something in your clarification that something I am seeing that I cannot make sense of. Or Spirit will clarify with a better clue to me.
Don’t Force it!
Don’t try and force something that I am telling you to fit something else. If I tell you that there are pearls being shown to me and your grandmother wore a gold chain don’t assume it is the same thing. If things are not making sense, stop me and tell me. I can then take the time to ask better questions of the Spirits that are with us. You are not being rude there could be many reasons for this — someone you came with has brought someone with them or a Spirit for a future or past client is lingering. It could also be me, if I am not feeling well or I could just be having a bad day.
If something doesn’t make sense or you can’t relate say so. Also keep open that if it doesn’t make sense you might just remember later. I know I have sat in a reading and the Medium said I have a Joe here with you who is very protective of you. I couldn’t in the moment relate at all. Two hours later I am kicking myself in the backside. I had a grandfather Joseph and my business mentor Joe in spirit. The medium gave me information that I was able to connect it was grandfather and the message suddenly made sense. To add insult to injury I lived next door to him for many years and we all called him Papa Joe. Trust me at the time none of it made sense.
If I mention a detail he keeps showing me a chocolate bar. If it makes sense to you explain – as a child uncle teddy would always sneak me one behind my mothers back. Or I always brought him a Hershey bar with almonds when I went to visit him in the nursing home. Me getting that detail may help in getting something else that will be important to you. Help give you a better reading. If it doesn’t make sense file it away. Somewhere down the road a light may go off.