Have the courage to ask. Sounds simple until you sit down and decide what it is that you desire. Because you can’t ask for everything all at once. Just by asking doesn’t mean that it will happen. You will have to put some serious work in to make it happen.
For way too long I didn’t believe I deserved what I wanted. I had this horrible belief that I was a second class citizen and that I had to apologize every time I did anything. Right or wrong that is what I believed. Too many times I felt that I could never live up to a standard someone else set. One that was completely unrealistic for me. More importantly was far from anything that I wanted for myself. I worked so hard to meet that standard. But like the fish that can’t climb a tree I was destined to failure.
Have the Courage to Change
So what changed for me? Well I had a few wonderful people in my life that helped me see and understand what was happening wasn’t right. Slowly over time I built confidence and understanding. If you find yourself in this kind of situation there is hope. Courage is not a loud event, it is the quiet resolve to try when you are beaten down.
Becoming strong happens along the way. Once on the other side of it you will become happy and find what you want. For me it was a loving supportive family — one that I had to create and become. It meant shedding a lot of things and even people out of my life. Not in a dramatic way but one where they all were removed one way or another. I don’t hate them, I have fond memories and am entirely grateful for the part they played in my life until now. Perhaps some may come back into my life but it will be with boundaries. There has been grief along the way and incredible growth.
Those that knew me when, have no idea of who I am now. That is their loss. I have struggled for so many years and been so unhappy for way too long. Today I set my own standards, and live by them. I have found a way to stay out of judgement and have found peace along the way. So can you…