Indicators You Might be Overthinking Things
Master Overthinker? Is there such a thing? Well yes, because I am an expert at this. Trust me I have mastered this skill. Unlearning it has been a journey. With a little effort on your part, you can break these habits. Remember to be gentle with yourself and that it is a journey. Unfortunately you can’t flip a switch and you no longer over think everything.
Have you ever considered you might be overthinking? While carefully considering a new idea can be an excellent thing, there comes a time when thinking about something needs to give way to action. Sometimes, though, we stall ourselves out by getting so involved in our thoughts, we never act at all.
At what point does serious planning become obsessive overthinking? Ask yourself these questions:
How Many Times Have You Gone Over This in Your Mind?
Considering a new thought or question a few times is natural. If you’re thinking about this constantly over several hours or even days, you’re probably getting too caught up in your thoughts.
How Many Times Have You Gone Over That Conversation?
Overthinkers can’t let anything rest. If you find yourself revisiting past discussions to the point where you have every piece of dialogue memorized, and even analyzed, you’re definitely overthinking.
Where are the Shades of Grey?
People who overthink tend to concentrate on absolutes – everything is either all one way or all another. There’s never any middle ground. If you can’t find the shades of grey, you’re overthinking things.
How Important is What Other People Think?
This goes back to the idea of repeating conversations in your head. Typically, we obsess over what the other person said because we’re worried about their opinion of us. If you’re concerned about how the world sees you, you’re already in trouble. The truth of the matter? At this point, you’re thinking about them, far more than they’re thinking about you.
What is the Motivation?
If you’re spending a lot of time trying to figure out why people are doing something, you’re venturing into dangerous territory. Unless you’re wanting to find out something positive (such as how they did something you want to emulate), you’re wasting your own time. What does it matter if they chose to do a sure thing? Unless it impacts you directly, it’s really none of your business.
How Are You Sleeping?
If racing thoughts are keeping you up at night, you’re overthinking, plain, and simple. Bedtime is when you’re supposed to let go and allow yourself to rest.
Whenever you allow yourself to be caught up in a spiral of worry and anxiety, you’re allowing your thoughts to take control of your day. Over time, your thoughts can take over your life, keeping you from the things you desire. When this happens, it’s definitely time to take a solid step back so you can restore the appropriate balance once again.