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Basic Human Need: A Healthy Support System

Everyone needs a healthy support system. While it is possible to live without one, this can be very hard on you and make living life very difficult. The reason that we all need a healthy support system is that we are social creatures who depend on others.

People In Your System

A healthy support system can come from many different places, but overall, it looks like the same thing. These people are individuals who you can count on and depend on to have your back and support you. They are the ones you can turn to when you need someone to talk to about decisions or to vent to. They are the ones who can help you when your car breaks down or when you need groceries delivered to your home. People who love you and care for you.

Your support system can be made of family members, friends, mentors, and coworkers. They are whoever you have in your life that really care about you.

One thing to pay attention to is to make sure that your support system remains healthy. Sometimes people in your life can start off healthy but change to be toxic or negative. These changes might be hard to notice because you are so used to assuming that these people are healthy to have in your life.

Watch out for Negative System

A negative support system individual can cause you problems by giving you bad or toxic advice, or not giving you help when you need it. If you notice bad outcomes keep occurring after you go to your support system, take some time to consider each person in your group and re-decide if they really belong there.

It can be hard to cut negative people out of your support group but especially if they are family members or have been friends with you for a while. In order to cut them out of your group, you need to stop involving them.

Don’t discuss your problems with them and don’t go to them for help. You can still be friends with someone without having them in your support group. Remember that having a healthy support system helps support your own health. When you cut someone out of your support system, you can do so without being mean or unkind to them.

Stand Your Ground

They might notice the change and question you about it. You don’t owe them an explanation but you are okay to give them one. Keep in mind, that often a toxic person will not realize that they are toxic and will still want to be involved in this important part of your life, even if they are causing you harm.

What happens when you don’t have a healthy support system? If your support system isn’t healthy, or if you don’t have one at all, there is a lot of additional strain put on you.

A lot of times in life, things happen and sometimes, these things are very difficult to solve on your own. Having people that you can depend on allows you to have a backup. It means that it’s not the end of the world when you are having a bad day or time. When you have no support, there is no room for error or problems.

While we all wish that we didn’t have problems in life, that simply isn’t the case. A healthy support system can help you live your best life and be prepared for the hard days. They help you grow and advance in life as well as help you learn and overcome. Having a healthy support system can make the difference between surviving and thriving in life.

Rev. Colleen Irwin
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Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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