How can we help others?

I often wonder how we can help others in time of serious crisis.  I sit here wondering about so many things these days?   I have avoided writing for so long because I have been stuck.  Then I realized that my being stuck was a result of me having to have all the answers.   Sometimes it is just being present that matters.

I write this at 4:30 in the morning as my husband lays sleeping upstairs, I know this because I hear him snoring.   He woke in the middle of the night completely stressed out and he was full of fear and anxiety.   I could only listen and reassure him as he fell sound asleep.

There is this time I now have to do something that I love — write.   Share my experiences in hopes that somewhere along the line it will help someone else.   So in essence, my answering the call is sharing what goes on in my life.   This may not make much sense but my writing again has freed me in so many ways.   So it is a good thing although later today I may be a little tired.

Partners Share — Good and the Bad

There are many people that would be upset that their spouse woke them up in the middle of the night.   That would not be me tonight.   I know he has been struggling with a few things.   Today was the day that he could put into words what was bothering him.   I could only hold his hand and reassure him; yet that was everything he needed.    In all of this, he was not wanting to wake me because for so long sleep evaded me.   That my sleeping meant that I felt safe and secure.   To him something that meant the world.

That brings me back to Ministry of Presence, that my friend Mario introduced me to years ago.  It is a simple concept that means you are present in the moment for someone.   You don’t have to have the answers and they do not have to be okay.   I think we all need to remember this and carry forward.   Pay it forward to someone else.

For the longest time George has been there for me creating a world that is safe and secure.   In return I am now there for him and we share the burdens together.   Resulting in him feeling safe and secure.   I may not have solved a single thing, but deep down he knows that I am there and that he can count on me.

How do we help others?  We do not have to have all the answers.   Sometimes just being there is all that is needed along with gratitude for those that have been there when we have needed it.