No is a complete sentence

The day I discovered that No was a complete sentence was a game changer for me.  No more explaining my self, no more excuses.   Just the simple word no.   Here is what you need to do when you don’t want to do something: say “No.”   If you are like me that sounds a bit rude.   If you want to say, “No, thank you,” that is acceptable, end it there.  There is power in that statement and that it is a complete sentence.  I know you are thinking “Really?  How is that possible?”   Trust me I have been there and it is a hard habit to break

Saying “no” is difficult for me because saying it brings feelings of guilt. I feel like I am not doing enough and that things are going to fall apart without my involvement. Of course, logically, I know this isn’t true. Yet, the guilty feelings prevail.

Creating Boundaries by saying no

Saying “no” is all about creating personal boundaries that allow you to focus your time doing the things that will bring you joy.  Learning to say “no” and not filling the void is powerful.   This is a learned behavior, much like meditation it takes practice.   Once mastered you setting yourself up for success and putting yourself in a position to choose rather than react in situations.

Ironically by saying no you open yourself to the things you really want in life.   By creating those boundaries, people around you respect your time in a healthier way.   Those that understand your boundaries won’t need explanation.  So the next time you want to say no let go of the guilt and say no.   By doing so you are choosing your happiness because you no longer allow guilt to enter the equation.

This two letter, one word complete sentence will change your life.   I know it has changed mine.


Rev. Colleen Irwin
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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