The day I discovered that No was a complete sentence was a game changer for me. No more explaining my self, no more excuses. Just the simple word no. Here is what you need to do when you don’t want to do something: say “No.” If you are like me that sounds a bit rude. If you want to say, “No, thank you,” that is acceptable, end it there. There is power in that statement and that it is a complete sentence. I know you are thinking “Really? How is that possible?” Trust me I have been there and it is a hard habit to break
Saying “no” is difficult for me because saying it brings feelings of guilt. I feel like I am not doing enough and that things are going to fall apart without my involvement. Of course, logically, I know this isn’t true. Yet, the guilty feelings prevail.
Creating Boundaries by saying no
Saying “no” is all about creating personal boundaries that allow you to focus your time doing the things that will bring you joy. Learning to say “no” and not filling the void is powerful. This is a learned behavior, much like meditation it takes practice. Once mastered you setting yourself up for success and putting yourself in a position to choose rather than react in situations.
Ironically by saying no you open yourself to the things you really want in life. By creating those boundaries, people around you respect your time in a healthier way. Those that understand your boundaries won’t need explanation. So the next time you want to say no let go of the guilt and say no. By doing so you are choosing your happiness because you no longer allow guilt to enter the equation.
This two letter, one word complete sentence will change your life. I know it has changed mine.