limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs can do so much harm because they are based in fear.  Have you ever wondered why, despite knowing your potential, you still hold yourself back?

It’s a common struggle. We often become our own worst enemies by creating barriers in our minds. Despite knowing deep down that we’re capable and competent, these self-imposed limitations prevent us from achieving our goals.  Let’s explore five actionable steps to shift your limiting beliefs for good and unlock your true potential.

Pause and Reflect

When a thought that feels off arises, it’s crucial to pause. Ask yourself: “Is this thought holding me back?” Recognizing a self-limiting belief is the first step to overcoming it.  Increases self-awareness and prevents automatic negative thinking. This pause helps you recognize patterns and triggers, allowing for more conscious decision-making.

Challenge the Validity

Once you’ve identified a limiting thought, dissect it. Where is the lie hidden in this belief? Understanding the falsehood helps you counteract it. For instance, if you believe “I’m not good enough,” ask yourself, “Why do I think this? What evidence do I have that supports or refutes this belief?”  This promotes critical thinking and reduces the power of irrational beliefs. By questioning the accuracy of your thoughts, you develop a more realistic self-perception and enhance your problem-solving skills.

Seek Evidence

Look for proof. Is there any factual basis to this limiting thought? Examine the evidence impartially—chances are, you’ll find the belief isn’t entirely accurate. For example, if you often think you’re always late, recall instances when you were on time. This balance of evidence can reshape your perspective.  Encourages objectivity and reduces bias. This step helps you base your self-image on facts rather than feelings, leading to more balanced and positive self-evaluations.

Assert Control over Limiting Beliefs

If your scrutiny reveals the belief to be false, replace it with the truth. Even if the belief holds a grain of truth, remind yourself that it’s not absolute. For example, “Yes, I’ve been late before, but many times I’ve been punctual.”  This empowers you to take charge of your thoughts and emotions. By actively replacing false beliefs with truths, you regain control over your mindset and behaviors, which boosts confidence and resilience.

Get Support

Changing deep-seated beliefs can be challenging on your own. Talking to a friend or seeking professional help can provide a fresh perspective and reinforce the truths you’re trying to instill. There’s strength in seeking support.  By gaining support you enhance emotional support and it provides new perspectives. Seeking help from others can validate your feelings, offer alternative viewpoints, and strengthen your support network, making it easier to overcome challenges.

Self-limiting beliefs don’t have to define your life. By critically examining and challenging your thoughts, especially those that undermine your confidence, you’ll find it much easier to progress toward your goals. Today, identify one limiting belief and apply these five steps. Watch how quickly you move closer to realizing your full potential.



Rev. Colleen Irwin
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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