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3 Powerful Quotes to Help You “Fail Forward” in Mediumship

Mediumship can feel overwhelming, and mediumship failure can be frustrating. We engage with deep emotions, knowing our words carry power. Every reading is an opportunity to connect with Spirit and offer healing, but that responsibility also makes mistakes feel heavy. When something doesn’t go as planned, it’s easy to view it as failure.

The truth is, mediumship failure is not final—it’s essential for growth. Every stumble brings you closer to mastering your gift. Mistakes are not failures; they’re lessons in patience, trust, and surrender.  Truth be told, they are difficult lessons to learn.

Here are three powerful quotes to inspire you to embrace challenges, learn from every experience, and keep growing as a medium.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas Edison

Mediumship requires time and patience. Some readings flow effortlessly, while others challenge your skills. There are no wrong attempts—only steps toward deeper understanding. A master has failed more times than a student has ever thought to try.

Every experience teaches you something, even when a sitter can’t validate a message. Through practice, you learn how Spirit communicates and how to trust what you receive, even if it takes time for the sitter to understand it.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” — Winston Churchill

There will be times when your message doesn’t land or your sitter says, “No, that doesn’t make sense.” These moments are tough, but seasoned mediums know that some messages plant seeds that bloom later.

Stay enthusiastic and trust in Spirit’s process. It’s not your job to control the outcome—your role is to offer what you receive. Spirit will take care of the rest.  If the sitter doesn’t get it from you, Spirit will find another way.   There is always another way.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” — Henry Ford

Every reading offers a new lesson. Some symbols become clearer only through repeated practice. Mediumship failure is not the end—it’s a chance to grow smarter and stronger.

Through these experiences, you learn to release the need for control. Spirit knows the bigger picture. Over time, you’ll develop the ability to adjust mid-reading and respond with grace, even when things don’t go as expected.

Why Mediums Struggle with Failure

Mediums often expect to connect perfectly right away. But making a strong connection takes time and practice. We sometimes forget that being human means learning through trial and error. Every reading is a learning experience—not just for you, but for Spirit and the sitter as well.

Sometimes, Spirit gives messages meant to bloom later. Sitters may not recognize a message in the moment but call back weeks or months later, saying they now understand. Then again, they may not be ready to hear what Spirit has to say.  I have seen people get the same message in church week after week by different visiting mediums and they shake their head not understanding a word.  It’s important to trust the process, even when things aren’t immediately clear.

We must also remember: Our role is to help, not to control. Mediumship involves deep emotions and delicate subjects. When we focus on helping rather than performing, we open the door to authentic, Spirit-led experiences.

One Simple Shift to Embrace Mediumship Failure

Instead of asking yourself, “What did I do wrong?” try asking:  “What can I learn from this, and where can I let go of control?”

Development circles and meditation are perfect places to explore these lessons. With practice, you’ll learn to adjust in the moment, staying calm and connected even when a sitter says “no.”  The more you practice releasing control, the easier it becomes to trust both Spirit and yourself.

Remember: Mastery Comes Through Experience

Mistakes are not failures—they are invitations to grow. A master has failed more times than a student has dared to try. Each challenge brings you closer to mastering your gift and building deeper trust with Spirit.

When you embrace every experience, even the challenging ones, mediumship becomes more than delivering messages. It becomes a practice of trust, surrender, and partnership with Spirit.

Reflection Questions for Your Mediumship Practice

    • How can I shift my mindset when a message doesn’t connect?
    • What has Spirit taught me about trusting the process?
    • Where can I release control and allow Spirit to guide the reading?

What has mediumship failure taught you? Share your story in the comments—I’d love to hear it!

Rev. Colleen Irwin
talkwithcolleen@gmail.com
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Wife, Healer, Psychic Medium, Mentor, Author, and Public Speaker from Rochester, New York, with over 30 years of business experience, including her work as a real estate broker. Colleen’s background in training REALTORS honed her skills in conflict resolution, marketing strategies, and analytical as well as presentation skills, which she now applies to her spiritual education and coaching. Colleen teaches, lectures, and serves Spirit, sharing her lifelong connection with the spiritual world, as captured in her book 'Discovering Your Stream.' She has studied with renowned mediums John White and Lisa Williams and was mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy. Ordained in the Order of Melchizedek by Reverend Dan Chesboro, Colleen is also a PREVIVOR who educates others about the BRCA genetic mutation and taking control of their health. Her mission is to empower women through life’s significant changes—whether it be a career shift, parental care giving, health crises, relationship transformations, or spiritual awakenings. Through spiritual education, inspirational talks, and coaching, Colleen offers guidance and hope, helping women embrace their new purpose.
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