better listener

Better listener?  If you want to improve your relationships with people, being able to listen effectively is a crucial skill you’ll need. However, it’s often considered a skill that’s been lost in recent years.

Even when you think you’re listening to someone, you may be surprised by how tuned out of the conversation you are. If you find yourself drifting off in your own thoughts or interrupting the other person, it’s a sure sign your listening skills need work.

Here, we’ll look at some of the best tips you can follow for how to be a better listener and thereby improve your relationships.

Ensure You Are Fully Present

The first thing you’ll want to do is ensure you are fully present in the conversation. It’s easy for your focus to drift onto your own thoughts. For example, the other person may mention something that triggers a memory in your own past. By replaying the memory in your mind, you’re not listening to the rest of what they are saying.

When you notice your attention isn’t fully on the conversation, bring it back. It’s a skill you’ll need to learn and practice. However, it’s impossible to truly get to know someone unless you fully listen to them.

Notice When You’re Waiting for Gaps to Speak

Another thing you may find yourself doing often, is waiting for a break in the conversation to speak. That is, you’re wanting to reply to something the other person has said. It would be rude to interrupt, so you wait for the right moment to say what it is that’s in your head.

The trouble with this is that you’re often so focused on what you want to say, that you aren’t really listening to what the other person is saying anymore. So, commit to listening to their entire conversation. You’ll still be able to say what you want to say, but don’t focus on it until the other person has stopped talking. You never know what you might miss if you only listen to part of the conversation.

Listen with the Intent to Learn

Another great tip is to listen to the other person with the intention to learn. That is, you’re seeing what you can learn from your conversation. Most of the time, it’s easy to switch off and listen simply to be polite. However, if you listen like there’s going to be a test at the end, you’ll find it more difficult to become distracted.

Keep Eye Contact with the Person

While constant eye contact can be creepy, it’s important to maintain it frequently. This helps to show the other person that you’re interested in what they’re saying. Looking away may be a sign of anxiety, but it can also give the impression that you don’t want to continue the conversation. So, if you’re bad at maintaining eye contact, this is something you’ll want to practice.

Becoming a great listener can take time and effort. This is especially true if you’ve developed bad listening habits over the years. Try the above tips today to see how much it helps when you’re trying to develop deeper relationships with people.

Rev. Colleen Irwin
talkwithcolleen@gmail.com
Reverend Colleen Irwin is a Spiritual being having a human experience as a Blogger, Wife, Mother, Mentor, Healer and Public Speaker living in Rochester New York. Colleen, a Natural Born Medium, teaches, lectures and serves Spirit when called upon. She remembers speaking with Spirit as a child and learning how to share this knowledge with others has been an adventure that she captured in her book “Discovering Your Stream”. Colleen has been mentored by Reverend Jack Rudy, and ordained as a Priest in the Order of Melchizedek by the Reverend Dan Chesboro through the Sanctuary of the Beloved. When she is not doing her Spiritual work she is a volunteer docent sharing Susan B. Anthony's history to visitors of the Susan B. Anthony House in Rochester. Her trust in Spirit gave her a new title – PREVIVOR. She now uses her platform to educate others about the BRCA genetic mutation and how one can take control of their health and well-being.
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