Learning about patience is not a skill we teach our young and it should be. I will admit it I am not patient. When I selected patience as one of my words for 2016 I had no idea the significance of the word that year. I wrote all that year written about my struggles with patience. Today I am a different person than I was when I selected those word. I learned it the hard way. I am grateful for it.
Patience has played a role. I came across this story and it says a lot:
The Fern and the Bamboo: the Anecdote
One day, a business owner decided he’d had enough. Enough of the unremitting workload, enough of the lack of response, enough of the crushing loneliness.
He went into the woods to have one last talk to God. “God,” he said. “Can you give me one good reason why I shouldn’t quit?” The answer took him by surprise. “Look around you,” it said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?” “Yes,” the man replied.
“When I planted the fern and the bamboo, I took very good care of them. I gave them both equal amounts of food and water. I gave them sunlight in spring and protected them from the storms in autumn. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant fronds soon covered the forest floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year, the fern grew even more splendidly than before but nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. Still I would not quit.”
“Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. But day by day the sprout grew. First a shoot, then a seedling, and finally a cane. Within six months, the bamboo cane had risen to a height of 100 feet. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.”
“Did you know that all this time you have been struggling, you have been growing? Growing the roots that you need to produce your fruit. I would not quit on the bamboo. I will not quit on you.”
“Don’t compare yourself to others. All of my creations have different purposes, different journeys, and different timescales. The bamboo had a different purpose from the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful. Your time will come. You will rise high.”
“How high should I rise?” the man asked.
“How high will the bamboo rise?” asked God in return.
“As high as it can?” the man questioned.
“Yes,” God replied. “Give me glory by rising as high as you can.”
The small business owner left the forest. And never went back.
“The Fern and the Bamboo”: the Morals of the Story
Don’t assume that success is a race and that the winners are the first past the line.
Don’t think that, because you haven’t succeeded in your goals yet, you never will.
Don’t conclude that, just because you can’t see evidence of growth, you’re not growing.
Believe in yourself, your dreams, and your goals.
Don’t presume to know how things will turn out. Have joy in the journey and let the outcomes take care of themselves.